THE POWER OF AN APOLOGY

Happiness is sometimes determined by a person’s thinking style – and attitude. If one’s thinking as an individual is not matured enough to lead them into taking responsibility for their actions, particularly when they are wrong, then their whole life would be filled with hatred, grudges, regrets and bad temper. Consequently, they would never taste the fruits of happiness. Life is too short to be always bitter and sour.

Many families have been destroyed because of some family members’ failure to admit to their wrongs. On the other hand, some friendships have ended because one betrayed the other and never apologised. Let me not even start with romantic relationships.

It is true that sometimes we do and say crazy things to people, whether intentionally or unintentionally. As we are different people, with different attitudes and thinking styles, we handle certain situations differently. Even our reactions on certain things differ. It is always important to consider the feeling of the other person before or after you have done something or said anything. Some words can destroy or heal. So, it is important for people to be careful before they create divisions and hatred between people.

There are people who fail to admit when they are wrong, but choose to rather shift the blame to others. Sometimes others hold grudges over small things that happened in the past. Some make excuses trying to run away from their problems, but eventually get negatively affected by them. Eventually, this means a life of never ending despondence.

But is apologising necessary when one has not done anything wrong?

One thing most people should always remember is that, apologising does not mean one is wrong or stupid. Rather, but it is a way of maintaining peace and harmonious living between people and, more importantly, to oneself. One sometimes must be humble enough to acknowledge their mistakes.

People should understand that the baggage they carry, particularly emotional baggage, affects them deeply and only they can free themselves of it and no one else. Their happiness is in their hands and how much they want it depends upon them.